one ring to rule them all...
April 17, 2010 8:35 PM Subscribe
Your opinions on metal choice for engagement+wedding rings, hopefully with the benefit of a decade of hindsight regarding how the appearance will age and what maintenance is required...
posted by Ultimate Sockpuppet the Second to Clothing, Beauty, & Fashion (21 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
I'm engagement-ring shopping and have chosen an arrangement that pretty much requires a white metal. I want all three rings to match very closely in appearance and manufacture, which means there are slightly heavy wear-resistance requirements because I use my hands a lot. I'm worried that even though it is easily repolished to gloss, gold will wear away and I'm not keen on having to have it re-plated every year and replaced in, what, 30 years?
I'm quite happy with the wear lifetime of Pt/Pd but people tell me the dents and patina can be quite unsightly. All of the employees at the jeweller I'm most likely to use were giving me the really hard-sell on using Au over Pt, which seems odd considering there was much less in it for them and most of them said that they themselves refused to buy Pt because it was so much harder to maintain. The problem is, I haven't been able to find any examples of what a Pt ring looks like after ten or twenty years of use/abuse to see for myself.
And then there's Pd - the metal is a bit cheaper, it's harder than Pt but has a similar finish. I'm seriously considering brushed-finish Pd at this point because any wear and dents ought to be a lot less obvious... but then repolishing is impossible.
I'd consider titanium or tungsten for myself but then it wouldn't really match and that's not on. Buying a separate "stunt ring" seems a bit silly.
Does anyone have (links to) photos of old and well-worn Pt or Pd rings in either gloss or brushed finish? Google is just showing me new rings that people are trying to sell. Any other pearls of hindsight you wish you'd known when buying yours?
Piggy-back question: are lab-grown diamonds and sapphires available yet? There was a lot of hype in 2006-2007 with a couple of startups, but I'm still only seeing rocks from the ground being sold to consumers and I'd much much prefer a synthetic (but molecularly identical) rock over feeding money to DeBeers.