How do I tell my girlfriend I want to be a father?
February 20, 2009 9:03 AM Subscribe
How do I go about telling my girlfriend I want to be a father? This makes me nervous, since I don't think she wants to be be a mother and life-goal conflicts like this are pretty big when talking about relationships.
posted by anonymous to human relations (50 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
Girlfriend: 21, bad father figure, divorced parents, not sure on what she wants to do with her life still.
Me: 23, nuclear family, career-job, want to be a father... one day.
We've been dating for almost a year (which I know isn't a particularly long period of time), but I'm at a point where I'm dreaming of having a life with this woman and a couple of nice kids and all that silly nonsense. Only problem is, I don't think she wants the same things.
Despite the fact we're both young, I know I'd like to have children one day but I don't think she feels the same way. I figure this is generally a yes/no kind of thing, and not a "Welllllll, maaaybe?" - at least it is for me. I'm reluctant to ask about this since it's potentially a deal-breaker for me but I'm very much in love this woman.
How do I tactfully ask about this without me seeming like a madman who wants to knock her up and buy a house with a picket fence after only a year?