What Is This Word/Feeling That's On The Tip of My Tongue?
August 4, 2018 6:59 PM   Subscribe

So, today my husband informed me that while I was out of town he bought a new type of household cleaner. This elicited a response from me that was less than kind. When he asked what the deal was, I tried to explain but the word that I know exists to describe my feeling completely eluded me. What was the word?

I know my feelings were a bit (a lot) ridiculous, but whatevs. I just need to know what word I was thinking that described my feeling.

Here are some words that sorta describe how I felt: threatened, my territory was encroached upon, offended, like my cleaners weren't good enough, insulted, hurt, irritated, resentment

There is a very specific word that I'm thinking of. It's on the tip of my tongue. I'm also willing to concede that it may very well be a word that I already listed above but I don't think so.

The word may start with the letter "i". But don't get hung up on that.

What word is it?!
posted by Sassyfras to Writing & Language (40 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
 
Infringed upon?
posted by nightrecordings at 7:01 PM on August 4, 2018


Defensive?
posted by songs about trains at 7:03 PM on August 4, 2018 [1 favorite]


Incensed, aggrieved, indignant, disparaged; you took umbrage
posted by Iris Gambol at 7:09 PM on August 4, 2018


Indignant?
posted by kimdog at 7:09 PM on August 4, 2018 [2 favorites]


“Disrespected” would cover it.
posted by ejs at 7:09 PM on August 4, 2018 [1 favorite]


Invalidated or diminished?
posted by the webmistress at 7:10 PM on August 4, 2018 [4 favorites]


Affronted?
posted by coppermoss at 7:15 PM on August 4, 2018


Impinged ?
posted by tristeza at 7:15 PM on August 4, 2018


Betrayed?
posted by heatherlogan at 7:16 PM on August 4, 2018


Irked?
posted by aniola at 7:21 PM on August 4, 2018 [2 favorites]


Undermined?
posted by juliapangolin at 7:22 PM on August 4, 2018 [1 favorite]


Undermined?
posted by Naanwhal at 7:23 PM on August 4, 2018


Encroachment, invaded, invalidated, usurped?
posted by A Terrible Llama at 7:30 PM on August 4, 2018 [1 favorite]


Oh I got VERY MAD when my husband bought Palmolive when the shopping list clearly said "Dawn", and we have literally only ever used Dawn for the past 11 years. Also he doesn't even wash the dishes! I felt many things; irritated, ignored, and incredulous mostly.
posted by masquesoporfavor at 7:43 PM on August 4, 2018 [6 favorites]


invalidated?
posted by amtho at 7:52 PM on August 4, 2018 [1 favorite]


Appropriated?
posted by Knowyournuts at 7:53 PM on August 4, 2018


Close but not quite: invalidated and irrelevant

But still not exactly the word I’m thinking of.
posted by Sassyfras at 8:01 PM on August 4, 2018


Incensed?
posted by sandra_s at 8:10 PM on August 4, 2018 [1 favorite]


I once got in a big fight with my husband at IKEA because he said he wanted to buy some things to organize the sink, because he felt it was too messy. The sink where he had not washed one dish in months. I felt like he was acting as if I wasn't doing a good enough job of keeping the sink clean so he was "stepping in", instead of like, actually washing a dish as a way of keeping the sink clean. I felt belittled & insulted.
posted by bleep at 8:12 PM on August 4, 2018 [10 favorites]


intruded upon?
posted by mochapickle at 8:14 PM on August 4, 2018


Discredited?
posted by misseva at 8:18 PM on August 4, 2018


Marginalized?
posted by BillMcMurdo at 8:18 PM on August 4, 2018 [1 favorite]


Inconsequential?
posted by aniola at 8:22 PM on August 4, 2018 [1 favorite]


Impugned upon?
posted by Crystal Fox at 8:24 PM on August 4, 2018 [4 favorites]


Patronized?
posted by paris moon at 8:35 PM on August 4, 2018


Obsolete? Extraneous?

I often get into fights with my husband about him bringing home the wrong brand of item from what's written on the shopping list. It seems careless/dismissive of my knowledge about the distinction between the two things.
posted by egeanin at 8:41 PM on August 4, 2018


disregarded?
posted by adventitious at 8:51 PM on August 4, 2018


Inconsequential, Insignificant
posted by the webmistress at 8:52 PM on August 4, 2018


Overruled?
posted by soelo at 8:52 PM on August 4, 2018


Not his bailiwick?
posted by lagomorphius at 8:57 PM on August 4, 2018


Depreciated?
posted by mono blanco at 9:07 PM on August 4, 2018


I think I figured it out!

Incompetent. I felt incompetent.
posted by Sassyfras at 9:22 PM on August 4, 2018 [10 favorites]


impotent?
posted by aniola at 9:33 PM on August 4, 2018 [1 favorite]


belittled?
posted by michswiss at 10:18 PM on August 4, 2018


I know you found the word, but I just had to add 'territorial' to this fine list.
posted by dancing leaves at 4:23 AM on August 5, 2018 [1 favorite]


You could say your competence was “discounted”, if it wasn't even considered in the first place
posted by XMLicious at 5:09 AM on August 5, 2018


Judged as incompetent maybe? Like, did YOU feel like you were incompetent or did you feel like he was saying that?
posted by Stewriffic at 8:16 AM on August 5, 2018


Slighted?
posted by susiswimmer at 9:04 AM on August 5, 2018 [1 favorite]


Inadequate?
posted by Salamandrous at 7:22 PM on August 5, 2018 [1 favorite]


Slighted
posted by tinkletown at 6:53 PM on August 6, 2018


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