What Is This Word/Feeling That's On The Tip of My Tongue?
August 4, 2018 6:59 PM Subscribe
So, today my husband informed me that while I was out of town he bought a new type of household cleaner. This elicited a response from me that was less than kind. When he asked what the deal was, I tried to explain but the word that I know exists to describe my feeling completely eluded me. What was the word?
I know my feelings were a bit (a lot) ridiculous, but whatevs. I just need to know what word I was thinking that described my feeling.
Here are some words that sorta describe how I felt: threatened, my territory was encroached upon, offended, like my cleaners weren't good enough, insulted, hurt, irritated, resentment
There is a very specific word that I'm thinking of. It's on the tip of my tongue. I'm also willing to concede that it may very well be a word that I already listed above but I don't think so.
The word may start with the letter "i". But don't get hung up on that.
What word is it?!
I know my feelings were a bit (a lot) ridiculous, but whatevs. I just need to know what word I was thinking that described my feeling.
Here are some words that sorta describe how I felt: threatened, my territory was encroached upon, offended, like my cleaners weren't good enough, insulted, hurt, irritated, resentment
There is a very specific word that I'm thinking of. It's on the tip of my tongue. I'm also willing to concede that it may very well be a word that I already listed above but I don't think so.
The word may start with the letter "i". But don't get hung up on that.
What word is it?!
Defensive?
posted by songs about trains at 7:03 PM on August 4, 2018 [1 favorite]
posted by songs about trains at 7:03 PM on August 4, 2018 [1 favorite]
Incensed, aggrieved, indignant, disparaged; you took umbrage
posted by Iris Gambol at 7:09 PM on August 4, 2018
posted by Iris Gambol at 7:09 PM on August 4, 2018
Indignant?
posted by kimdog at 7:09 PM on August 4, 2018 [2 favorites]
posted by kimdog at 7:09 PM on August 4, 2018 [2 favorites]
“Disrespected” would cover it.
posted by ejs at 7:09 PM on August 4, 2018 [1 favorite]
posted by ejs at 7:09 PM on August 4, 2018 [1 favorite]
Invalidated or diminished?
posted by the webmistress at 7:10 PM on August 4, 2018 [4 favorites]
posted by the webmistress at 7:10 PM on August 4, 2018 [4 favorites]
Affronted?
posted by coppermoss at 7:15 PM on August 4, 2018
posted by coppermoss at 7:15 PM on August 4, 2018
Betrayed?
posted by heatherlogan at 7:16 PM on August 4, 2018
posted by heatherlogan at 7:16 PM on August 4, 2018
Irked?
posted by aniola at 7:21 PM on August 4, 2018 [2 favorites]
posted by aniola at 7:21 PM on August 4, 2018 [2 favorites]
Undermined?
posted by juliapangolin at 7:22 PM on August 4, 2018 [1 favorite]
posted by juliapangolin at 7:22 PM on August 4, 2018 [1 favorite]
Encroachment, invaded, invalidated, usurped?
posted by A Terrible Llama at 7:30 PM on August 4, 2018 [1 favorite]
posted by A Terrible Llama at 7:30 PM on August 4, 2018 [1 favorite]
Oh I got VERY MAD when my husband bought Palmolive when the shopping list clearly said "Dawn", and we have literally only ever used Dawn for the past 11 years. Also he doesn't even wash the dishes! I felt many things; irritated, ignored, and incredulous mostly.
posted by masquesoporfavor at 7:43 PM on August 4, 2018 [6 favorites]
posted by masquesoporfavor at 7:43 PM on August 4, 2018 [6 favorites]
invalidated?
posted by amtho at 7:52 PM on August 4, 2018 [1 favorite]
posted by amtho at 7:52 PM on August 4, 2018 [1 favorite]
Appropriated?
posted by Knowyournuts at 7:53 PM on August 4, 2018
posted by Knowyournuts at 7:53 PM on August 4, 2018
Response by poster: Close but not quite: invalidated and irrelevant
But still not exactly the word I’m thinking of.
posted by Sassyfras at 8:01 PM on August 4, 2018
But still not exactly the word I’m thinking of.
posted by Sassyfras at 8:01 PM on August 4, 2018
Incensed?
posted by sandra_s at 8:10 PM on August 4, 2018 [1 favorite]
posted by sandra_s at 8:10 PM on August 4, 2018 [1 favorite]
I once got in a big fight with my husband at IKEA because he said he wanted to buy some things to organize the sink, because he felt it was too messy. The sink where he had not washed one dish in months. I felt like he was acting as if I wasn't doing a good enough job of keeping the sink clean so he was "stepping in", instead of like, actually washing a dish as a way of keeping the sink clean. I felt belittled & insulted.
posted by bleep at 8:12 PM on August 4, 2018 [10 favorites]
posted by bleep at 8:12 PM on August 4, 2018 [10 favorites]
intruded upon?
posted by mochapickle at 8:14 PM on August 4, 2018
posted by mochapickle at 8:14 PM on August 4, 2018
Marginalized?
posted by BillMcMurdo at 8:18 PM on August 4, 2018 [1 favorite]
posted by BillMcMurdo at 8:18 PM on August 4, 2018 [1 favorite]
Inconsequential?
posted by aniola at 8:22 PM on August 4, 2018 [1 favorite]
posted by aniola at 8:22 PM on August 4, 2018 [1 favorite]
Impugned upon?
posted by Crystal Fox at 8:24 PM on August 4, 2018 [4 favorites]
posted by Crystal Fox at 8:24 PM on August 4, 2018 [4 favorites]
Patronized?
posted by paris moon at 8:35 PM on August 4, 2018
posted by paris moon at 8:35 PM on August 4, 2018
Obsolete? Extraneous?
I often get into fights with my husband about him bringing home the wrong brand of item from what's written on the shopping list. It seems careless/dismissive of my knowledge about the distinction between the two things.
posted by egeanin at 8:41 PM on August 4, 2018
I often get into fights with my husband about him bringing home the wrong brand of item from what's written on the shopping list. It seems careless/dismissive of my knowledge about the distinction between the two things.
posted by egeanin at 8:41 PM on August 4, 2018
disregarded?
posted by adventitious at 8:51 PM on August 4, 2018
posted by adventitious at 8:51 PM on August 4, 2018
Inconsequential, Insignificant
posted by the webmistress at 8:52 PM on August 4, 2018
posted by the webmistress at 8:52 PM on August 4, 2018
Not his bailiwick?
posted by lagomorphius at 8:57 PM on August 4, 2018
posted by lagomorphius at 8:57 PM on August 4, 2018
Depreciated?
posted by mono blanco at 9:07 PM on August 4, 2018
posted by mono blanco at 9:07 PM on August 4, 2018
Response by poster: I think I figured it out!
Incompetent. I felt incompetent.
posted by Sassyfras at 9:22 PM on August 4, 2018 [10 favorites]
Incompetent. I felt incompetent.
posted by Sassyfras at 9:22 PM on August 4, 2018 [10 favorites]
impotent?
posted by aniola at 9:33 PM on August 4, 2018 [1 favorite]
posted by aniola at 9:33 PM on August 4, 2018 [1 favorite]
You could say your competence was “discounted”, if it wasn't even considered in the first place
posted by XMLicious at 5:09 AM on August 5, 2018 [1 favorite]
posted by XMLicious at 5:09 AM on August 5, 2018 [1 favorite]
Judged as incompetent maybe? Like, did YOU feel like you were incompetent or did you feel like he was saying that?
posted by Stewriffic at 8:16 AM on August 5, 2018
posted by Stewriffic at 8:16 AM on August 5, 2018
Slighted?
posted by susiswimmer at 9:04 AM on August 5, 2018 [1 favorite]
posted by susiswimmer at 9:04 AM on August 5, 2018 [1 favorite]
Inadequate?
posted by Salamandrous at 7:22 PM on August 5, 2018 [1 favorite]
posted by Salamandrous at 7:22 PM on August 5, 2018 [1 favorite]
Slighted
posted by tinkletown at 6:53 PM on August 6, 2018
posted by tinkletown at 6:53 PM on August 6, 2018
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posted by nightrecordings at 7:01 PM on August 4, 2018