Is it too soon to date again?
March 20, 2008 11:00 AM Subscribe
I'm on the cusp of dating someone soon after a breakup. Is it too soon?
posted by stedman15 to human relations (23 answers total) 8 users marked this as a favorite
I'm 29 and male, living in the Midwest.
Back in early February, I broke up with my girlfriend of 10 months. A gulf had been building between us since November. We were in a long distance relationship and my ex had began making a big issue out of us being from different faiths. For the two weeks before we broke up, I was in a lot of pain. She wouldn't talk to me at all, and the breakup was a relief of sorts.
About a week and a half after my breakup, I began talking to another girl. We have been friends since 2003. She went through a divorce last year. She listened about my breakup and offered her own insights.
Then, about a week later, she said that she had always had feelings for me. I also had feelings for her in the past, but due to life circumstances, I did not think it would work.
My "more than friend" lives in Houston, so it's another long distance thing. This time it might work, though. We are both of the same religion, we can talk for hours, and I can't stop thinking about her.
My question is whether it is too soon. I think this relationship has potential, and I don't want it to be a rebound. I hardly think about my ex. I want to talk to this girl all the time, and am already planning a trip down to Houston in late April to see her.
Am I moving too fast?