If she's a grown woman and she doesn't understand conservation of matter, I doubt you're going to have much luck...and
However, she needs to brush up on The Conservation Of Matter.Don't be dicks. Most people don't remember or understand their one or two high school exposures to conservation laws. Hell, most people don't know where the seasons come from. Atop which, this is a reasonable question she has, if perhaps badly phrased: is it possible that heating cheese converts this and that into that and this, making it worse for you to eat in some way? It's true of Teflon. She's apparently not asking whether fat is created from scratch, she's guessing that what goes down your gullet in a grilled sandwich is chemically different from the other thing. Not a bad guess, eh?
posted by sondrialiac at 10:36 PM on January 9, 2008