What's wrong with my girlfriend?
November 15, 2007 8:38 AM Subscribe
What's wrong with my girlfriend? I've recently become aware of what seems to be self-obsession and a nasty mean streak.
posted by anonymous to human relations (74 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
I've recently started dating a girl. A few things about her, though, are beginning to worry me.
1 - She takes lots of pictures of herself. She's a year or two younger than me (across the high school/college divide), so I chalked this up to whatever instinct it is that drives girls her age to take pictures of themselves and put them on Myspace and the like. The only problem is, she takes A LOT of pictures. When browsing through her camera I found at least a few hundred, taken recently. She makes collages out of these pictures, and has one on her dresser. Other people (relatives, friends) are sometimes in these pictures, but not usually.
2 - One of the ways in which I attempt to be playful with people is to sarcastically brag, pretend I don't like them, and play one-upmanship games. I was delighted she liked to play these games as well, but she always seems to take them one or more steps beyond where I'm comfortable - and sometimes I get the feeling that she's not being sarcastic. Whenever I stop playing or try to let her know this, she indirectly makes me feel like a baby or someone without a sense of humor.
3 - We traded "I love you"s for the first time last week, and ever since then, her behavior I explained in the previous example has gotten much worse. Until I cave in, acknowledge her superiority, and shower her with affection she'll keep saying more and more hurtful things. Afterwards, of course, it's all a big joke. This is the most worrisome point to me, as it has seemed to coincide directly with the "I Love You"s.
She's a very pretty girl and way out of my league, which is why I may be subconsciously taking the submissive role: I don't want to lose her.
So, what's wrong with her? Or is something wrong with me?