Muteness in a talkative world
December 4, 2006 1:24 PM Subscribe
I have huge problems communicating with people, or the lack of it.
posted by anonymous to human relations (7 answers total) 11 users marked this as a favorite
I have a very hard time talking about myself and my activities unless specifically asked a question, and I'm not very good at asking people about themselves either-- it feels like prying. I also don't know what to say when people make comments about me, even something simple like commenting on a new hairstyle or a personality trait. I'm not shy or timid. It feels completely awkward to jump in with information about myself. I feel like I'm prying when asking someone a question, and I honestly don't know how to respond when someone comments on something about me. It's almost always kindly or favourably. I don't know when I'm saying too much or not enough. On the other hand, several people I have managed to become friends with often try to pressure me into telling them things about myself such as my problems, and they seem to consider themselves my best friend, since they talk about their problems so frequently and freely and make a lot of demands on me for my time (I don't reciprocate fully).
So is there anything I can do to put myself out there more, and put some sort of limit in my interactions with people, so I'm not giving all the time? I'm an introvert. My lack of communication skills is probably compounded by growing up in a household where we never discussed anything with each other. I really don't know what it is to have a good, interactive relationship with somebody.