Phone call protocol?
October 11, 2006 10:42 PM Subscribe
Why is it when I'm dating a guy and I call him two days in a row - I get treated like Glenn Close's character in Fatal Attraction?
posted by wilde to Human Relations (61 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
This has happened in my last two relationships. Everything is hunky dory. They call often enough - in the beginning almost everyday, including several days in a row. Then, when I'm finally comfortable in the relationship, I'll call one day to say hey and see how they're doing, and maybe the next day I'll call to see if they want to do something.
After that, things seem to go downhill fast. I know there may be some other mitigating factors in the descent of their affections: they realize they don't like me, they're busy, etc. But then I get the brush off or they act like I'm bothering them.
I'm really easy going, if someone calls me often (whether it be friend or more than a friend), I don't think anything of it. I don't automatically think, "Geez, this person is a needy. I better lock away my bunny." I imagine I could be more unavailable, but then if the guy I'm dating calls and I miss it, I will call them later that day, or if there is alot going on, the next day.
I don't want to be insincere and wait several days to call back, but frankly I'm frustrated. Do I act normally, play the waiting game or get rid of my phone?