My sister treats my parents badly
August 29, 2006 2:13 PM Subscribe
My 29-year old sister is dependent on my parents to a very unhealthy degree. She refuses to counseling, and seems to be more and more of a burden on them which each passing year. She can be extremely verbally abusive towards my parents and it just breaks my heart to see her treat them this way. How can I encourage her to develop her own life and interests? How can I help my parents to stop feeling like they have to coddle her?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (11 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
My sister has no friends. She has never been involved in any romantic relationships, either. She does have a college degree (graduated with a 3.95 GPA) but she chooses to work in low-paying jobs. She has never held a job longer than a year. She perceives none of this as her fault, and blames my parents. Seriously, she’ll fly into a tear-filled rage and blame them for not taking her to more play dates when she was little.
Years ago, she was diagnosed with social anxiety disorder, depression, and obsessive compulsive personality disorder. She briefly sought counseling but then gave it up.
She does have her own apt. (my parents co-signed for her just to get her out of the house) but she stays at their house every single weekend. She calls them every single day and leaves angry messages on their answering machine threatening to hurt herself if they don’t answer the phone. I am sick of having my parents deal with this emotional blackmail. My parents are in their 60s. My mom has had a stroke and is blind in one eye. My dad has health issues as well. This is having a SERIOUS impact on their quality of life.
So, in short, what can I do? I no longer feel sorry for my sister as she continues to make the same bad choices over and over again, but I am extremely concerned about my parents.