Songs about limerence
December 10, 2021 12:06 PM   Subscribe

I feel like I'm on an edge of falling into limerence, again. Being older and maybe wiser, along with reading about the mechanics of limerence, is so far is helping me be in a place of mindfulness about it, rather than losing my mind. I'd love a soundtrack of songs to listen to that capture what limerence is like, especially how it's utterly consuming despite simultaneously knowing you're in a state and the desired connection is unfulfillable.

Please recommend songs about limerence. Any kind of music. Music is getting me through times when I'm avoiding being around the person I'm so stuck on, as well as reminding me I'm not the only person who gets this way and to be a little kinder to myself. If you've been here, then you know I need hours worth of songs to help distract me!
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (29 answers total) 16 users marked this as a favorite
 
Caramel - Suzanne Vega
Next Lifetime - Erykah Badu
posted by RobinofFrocksley at 12:43 PM on December 10, 2021 [3 favorites]


Crush - Jennifer Paige
posted by MiraK at 1:08 PM on December 10, 2021 [1 favorite]


There are some great suggestions in this previous thread, including mine of Liz Phair's Why Can't I.
posted by hydra77 at 1:08 PM on December 10, 2021 [3 favorites]


Patrick Wolf — Magic Position
posted by wemayfreeze at 1:14 PM on December 10, 2021 [2 favorites]


Help Me...by Joni!
posted by nantucket at 1:19 PM on December 10, 2021 [4 favorites]


The Cure - Why Can't I Be You?
posted by philip-random at 1:30 PM on December 10, 2021


I don't know if any of this is what you're looking for, but 30% of the Magnetic Fields album "69 love songs," several tracks from the "Hedwig and the Angry Inch" soundtrack, "I'm Gonna Sit Right Down and Write Myself a Letter" (most notably recorded by Fats Waller), and the White Stripes' "Take, Take, Take" capture some of that for me. I'm tempted to suggest Tori Amos (Little Earthquakes among others) and Kate Bush (Never for Ever), but I can't entirely tell if that's just because I listened to them so often as a teenager or if they really capture the same emotion for other people. Best wishes and don't forget to enjoy the enjoyable parts.
posted by eotvos at 1:38 PM on December 10, 2021 [3 favorites]


XTC, When You’re Near Me I Have Difficulty
Sleater-Kinney, Buy Her Candy
Pointer Sisters, She’s Got the Fever
Ben Folds Five, Kate
Billy Bragg & Wilco, Ingrid Bergman
The Cure, Catch
posted by miles per flower at 1:43 PM on December 10, 2021 [1 favorite]


Jeff Buckley, Lover You Should've Come Over
Broken down and hungry for your love / With no way to feed it / Where are you tonight? / Child, you know how much I need it

Fiona Apple, I Know

And Purity Ring's album Another Eternity (the whole album).
posted by southern_sky at 1:46 PM on December 10, 2021


First and foremost, the magnificent Polly Jean Harvey with This is Love and Good Fortune

And the superb Dionne Warwick Say a Little Prayer for You


And maybe just in terms of vibe:
Goldie, State of Mind
Beth Orton, Live as You Dream

Abba.

Also check out the crooners, back to Ivor Novello, and Motown
posted by runincircles at 2:07 PM on December 10, 2021 [2 favorites]


Being of a certain age, I'll always associate Three Princes by the Spin Doctors with those feelings.
posted by Candleman at 2:31 PM on December 10, 2021


Bjork it’s oh so quiet

Omg she screams with delight in the song. It’s amazing.
posted by St. Peepsburg at 2:33 PM on December 10, 2021 [2 favorites]


A lot of 50's music is good for this, which I recently discovered from a Spotify playlist ("All Out 50's"); lots of fantasy longing, love stuff:

All I Have to Do is Dream- The Everly Brothers
Smoke Gets in Your Eyes- The Platters
Everyday -Buddy Holly
Why Do Fools Fall in Love: Frankie Lymon and the Teenagers
Sea of Love: Phil Phillips
It's Only Make Believe
You Send Me- Same Cooke
Come Softly to Me-The Fleetwoods
posted by bearette at 2:45 PM on December 10, 2021 [2 favorites]


Boy, Little Numbers

k.d. lang and the Sis Boom Bang, Sugar Buzz

Ephraim Lewis, Drowning in Your Eyes

The Pretenders, Don’t Get Me Wrong
posted by armeowda at 3:34 PM on December 10, 2021




Timebomb by Walk The Moon
posted by armoir from antproof case at 3:49 PM on December 10, 2021 [1 favorite]


You Are the Ocean - Phantogram (I think this one is about cocaine addiction? . . . whatever, it's the same.) Youtube | Spotify
posted by meemzi at 3:50 PM on December 10, 2021


Take me to church and Work song by Hozier
Would you fight for my love by Jack White
Perfection by Adalita
Fast Slow Disco by St Vincent
posted by geek anachronism at 5:06 PM on December 10, 2021


Something’s Got Me by Lori Carson
posted by wondermouse at 6:01 PM on December 10, 2021 [1 favorite]


You Don't Know Me (there are many versions, but this one's by Jann Arden)
posted by hurdy gurdy girl at 6:33 PM on December 10, 2021


Lock It by the Falling Joys
posted by mydonkeybenjamin at 6:40 PM on December 10, 2021


Strange Currencies - REM
posted by Kris10_b at 9:47 PM on December 10, 2021


Nice seeing this word in the wild ("limerence")

If you haven't listened to it too many times today (like I have), Fade Into You by Mazzy Star.. and then the whole album, twice.
posted by firstdaffodils at 10:08 PM on December 10, 2021 [1 favorite]


Limerence, Show Tunes Version:
I’m Not That Girl - Wicked
Lida Rose/Will I Ever Tell You? (at 1:47) - The Music Man
On My Own - Les Miz
Funny Girl
Never Give All the Heart - Smash
posted by elphaba at 8:07 AM on December 11, 2021 [2 favorites]


I used to keep an unrequited love playlist because of a nearly-fatal crush that began when I was fifteen, and long carried on doing so occasionally for sentimental reasons, so please enjoy the fruits of that. Some of it is overwrought in an appropriately adolescent way.

Too Much Joy Crush Story
Mika I See You, Good Wife
Semisonic Bed
Lowen & Navarro Maybe Later
Ani DiFranco O.K., Loom, Heartbreak Even, Carry You Around
indigo girls Ghost, Blood & Fire, Mystery
Melissa Etheridge Like the Way I Do, The Angels
Nick Drake One of These Things First
George Harrison I'd Have You Anytime, Between the Devil and the Deep Blue Sea
Ben Lee Ache For You
Dan Bern One Dance
Sugarcubes Hit
The Happy Fits Hold Me Down
The Thorns I Told You, Such a Shame
The Jayhawks All the Right Reasons
Bonnie Raitt I Can't Make You Love Me
Orchestra JB Come Alive
Whiskeytown Crazy About You
Suzanne Vega Marlene on the Wall
Kings of Convenience Sorry or Please, Parallel Lines
Elvis Costello Sneaky Feelings
Yeah Yeah Yeahs Maps

Del Amitri Sometimes I Just Have to Say Your Name
Stellastarr* Damn This Foolish Heart
posted by jocelmeow at 9:48 AM on December 11, 2021 [1 favorite]


Oh my goodness, how could I forget Mika's Talk About You?
posted by jocelmeow at 2:45 PM on December 11, 2021 [1 favorite]


Just off the top of my head:

Probably the best ever song about limerence is "Laid" by James

A bunch of songs by Garbage -- "You Look So Fine" and "Vow" and "Number One Crush" for example

Beyonce -- "Halo"

The Cardigans -- "Lovefool"

T.a.t.u. -- "All the Things She Said"

Berlin -- "Take My Breath Away"

Chris Isaac -- "Wicked Game"

Someone already said Suzanne Vega "Caramel"
posted by virve at 10:10 PM on December 11, 2021 [1 favorite]


Possibly Baby's Arms by Kurt Vile, with the Sadies. I didn't really like KV until I heard that track .. then I was like, "ah, ok."
posted by firstdaffodils at 9:05 PM on December 13, 2021


From my list back in the day:
* Call Me Maybe and Real Love and Now That I Found You--Carly Rae Jepsen
* I Like (The Idea Of You)--Tessa Violet
* I Should Be So Lucky--Kylie Minogue
* There's No Way-Lauv
* Money, Fame & Fortune and Indestructible--Goo Goo Dolls
* Fired Up-Matt Andersen
* Almost Love--Sabrina Carpenter
* Peer Pressure--James Bay
* What's Love Got To Do With It--Tina Turner
* See You Again--Miley Cyrus
* If I Didn't Tell You--James TW
* Endgame and I'd Lie--Taylor Swift
* I Think I Fell In Love Today--Kelsea Ballerinia
* Feeling Of Falling-- Cheat Codes X Kim Petras
* Be Together--Major Lazer
* I Won't Say I'm In Love--Hercules
* It Was Always You--Maroon 5
* First Time and You and Me--Lifehouse
* Fallin' For You and What If---Colbie Caillat
* Lightning--Alex Goot
* How Do I Get There-- Deana Carter
* (If You're Wondering If I Want You To) I Want You To--Weezer
* Trying Not to Love You and Don't Ever Let It End--Nickelback (I don't care on people's judgement)
* Complicated-- Carolyn Dawn Johnson
* Rumor--Lee Brice
* Crush--both the Jennifer Paige and Lila McCann songs have same name, different lyrics
* Make Me Like You--Gwen Stefani
* Symphony--Clean Bandit feat. Zara Larsson
* Jenny--Walk the Moon
* What You Don't Say--Lianne Las Havas
* Something About Us--Pomplamousse and Daft Punk do versions of it
* Born To Be Yours--Kygo and Imagine Dragons
* You Belong -Fly By Midnight
* Heart's Going Out Of It's Mind--Carly Pearce
* Something About You--Lucius
posted by jenfullmoon at 9:55 PM on December 13, 2021


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