The dream job and boyfriend dilema again
January 19, 2018 4:04 PM Subscribe
Sometime ago I posted here asking for advice when I was offered a temporary job position in Europe.
I am a 32 year old gay man into a 2 year and a half relationship. Last time the company I have worked 10 years for asked me to go to Europe for 9 months. At the end I didn't go as the job didn't come with any extra salary benefits and I wasn't sure about leaving my SO behind.
A couple of months has passed and the company again offered me the chance to participate for a permanent position, this time at the global headquarters in Amsterdam and a very good salary increase. As other 15 candidates from all other the world were interviewed, I didn't care about participating. The thing is I happened to be among the final 5 candidates and now the chance of getting the job is real.
I have talked to my boyfriend. He has been supportive but very clear that he will not move out from Argentina and that I could spend some time in the Netherlands if I get the job. After that I would have to resign and look for another job at home when I am back. At the other hand, if I do get the job and decide to say "no thanks" I wouldn't have any other future in the company anyway.
It is probably a very good opportunity for my career, I am aware of that. However I don't want to risk what I have with him, we are very happy. But at the same time I am afraid of having regrets and what ifs if I stay.
This is probably the hardest decision I ever had.
Thank you.
A couple of months has passed and the company again offered me the chance to participate for a permanent position, this time at the global headquarters in Amsterdam and a very good salary increase. As other 15 candidates from all other the world were interviewed, I didn't care about participating. The thing is I happened to be among the final 5 candidates and now the chance of getting the job is real.
I have talked to my boyfriend. He has been supportive but very clear that he will not move out from Argentina and that I could spend some time in the Netherlands if I get the job. After that I would have to resign and look for another job at home when I am back. At the other hand, if I do get the job and decide to say "no thanks" I wouldn't have any other future in the company anyway.
It is probably a very good opportunity for my career, I am aware of that. However I don't want to risk what I have with him, we are very happy. But at the same time I am afraid of having regrets and what ifs if I stay.
This is probably the hardest decision I ever had.
Thank you.
This post was deleted for the following reason: Sorry, asking the same question over and over is not something we can accommodate here. -- restless_nomad
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posted by doornoise at 4:07 PM on January 19, 2018