75 dates and counting.
December 19, 2017 1:30 AM Subscribe
...and I'm still not over my ex.
I've written before about my previous relationship so I may get flamed and probably told that I need counselling ( I could probably be the hot topic in a conference of psychotherapists) but here goes.
It's been a year since I last had contact with my ex. It wasn't a good relationship and she was fickle and kept breaking up with me. I have tried to be proactive and followed the common advice about getting back out there and have done so with gusto. I've actually been on around 75 dates (probably more) in a year. I've not been a heel and most of the dates have simply been first dates which haven't gone any further. I have had a couple which were mini flings but I was up front about probably not being in the right headspace for a relationship and these fizzled out. The truth is I'm still not over my last relationship and think about my ex all the time. I really loved her. I thought trying to meet people would help me move on and ease my loneliness. Maybe it's the time of year but when I look back over the last year I wonder if I have really done the right thing putting myself out there like that? Then again 'in for a penny in for a pound' and perhaps I should carry on. Quite often the dating seems to make me feel sad about my last relationship and I wonder if I will ever feel the same connection again as I'm in my fifties.
Does it sound like I'm trying to force myself to move on and should I stop the dating?
I've written before about my previous relationship so I may get flamed and probably told that I need counselling ( I could probably be the hot topic in a conference of psychotherapists) but here goes.
It's been a year since I last had contact with my ex. It wasn't a good relationship and she was fickle and kept breaking up with me. I have tried to be proactive and followed the common advice about getting back out there and have done so with gusto. I've actually been on around 75 dates (probably more) in a year. I've not been a heel and most of the dates have simply been first dates which haven't gone any further. I have had a couple which were mini flings but I was up front about probably not being in the right headspace for a relationship and these fizzled out. The truth is I'm still not over my last relationship and think about my ex all the time. I really loved her. I thought trying to meet people would help me move on and ease my loneliness. Maybe it's the time of year but when I look back over the last year I wonder if I have really done the right thing putting myself out there like that? Then again 'in for a penny in for a pound' and perhaps I should carry on. Quite often the dating seems to make me feel sad about my last relationship and I wonder if I will ever feel the same connection again as I'm in my fifties.
Does it sound like I'm trying to force myself to move on and should I stop the dating?
This post was deleted for the following reason: I'm sorry, I know that this is a persistent problem, but Ask Me has given you as much advice as it's possible to give on this longstanding issue, and yeah, it really is something that you should address with counseling. -- taz
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