Months of therapy and no change regarding husband giving family $
October 31, 2017 9:50 AM   Subscribe

My husband and I have been doing months of couples therapy. It was long overdue. He is Hispanic and I am not. This has caused serious difficulties in our marriage. He is the oldest son with two siblings. They do not contribute to their financially irresponsible parents. My husband does. He has started just doing it in secret because he knows how much it upsets me. In the last week, he has given them $1000 for various "emergencies". We have three young kids. Therapist told me last week that she "appreciates my struggle with someone who does not appear to have the awareness to change his behavior". My in laws also live in a house for which we pay the mortgage. And their cell phones. Mother in law helps us out at times with the kids; father in law usually is in the middle of some type of crisis of one sort of another and doesn't get along with anyone in the entire world. I am so sad about this situation. I feel like I have to get divorced because nothing will change. I feel like we are going to therapy to no avail. And I have three young kids.
posted by tangomija to Human Relations

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