What went wrong here?

October 27, 2016 11:24 AM

I asked this question earlier this month. We went on four dates, all of which were fun (for me at least). We kissed a LOT and had sex twice, and it was good (for me at least). Today I got that oh-so-fun, "I like you but I'm not feeling a romantic spark, this isn't going to work out" text. I was honestly shocked. I thought things were going well and that we were really clicking. (We were on the same page on SO MANY THINGS... hobbies, nerdy jobs, introverted and introspective, etc.)

I have a few related questions:

* Does it really take 4 dates to figure out that you're not into someone? Personally, I can always tell within 1-2 dates. Seems far more likely that I did Something on our last date that turned him off, but I have no idea what that might have been.

* Have you sent a text like this? If so, what prompted it? What signals of disinterest might he have been sending that I missed?

* Have you received a text like this? If so, what do you recommend to move on, besides the Netflix + wine + PJs night that I have planned with my BFF for this weekend? I've deleted him from my phone so I won't be tempted to contact him again.

posted by schroedingersgirl to Human Relations