Lack of curiosity in a relationship

July 6, 2016 9:51 AM

I recently ended an intense 4 month relationship with a guy who was seemingly into me (I love you's were exchanged, fantastic intimate sex, met family and friends, etc). Am rethinking my decision. I broke up with him because of his lack of curiosity/empathy about me. For instance, he never asked about my parents (one is dead, the other in a nursing home), and when I told him something remarkable about my past, he asked no questions and never followed up. Once, when we were hiking and I overextended my knee and exclaimed "ouch", he said "I thought you have been hiking before." Also, he preferred group dates and activities to quiet times when we could simply talk and be together. He is 41 and has only had one lt relationship that lasted two years in his 20s. These are just a few examples of how he made me feel so LONELY in the relationship and why I tried to explain how I felt he accused me of being needy and clingy, although did try to make a small effort to learn more about me, once asking my Father's name for instance. And, considering is lack of interest in me as a person, how is it possible that the sex was so incredibly close and wonderful?
posted by Jaspersen145 to Human Relations (3 answers total)

What exactly is your question here? People can be good at sex even with strangers, let alone with someone they like but maybe aren't that interested in, regardless of what they say. This guy wasn't very nice to you. He made you feel lonely in the relationship and when you told him, he attacked you! Let it go and find someone better.
posted by brainmouse at 9:54 AM on July 6, 2016 [1 favorite]

Run
posted by Freedomboy at 9:56 AM on July 6, 2016 [1 favorite]

He's a total boner, never look back.
posted by stoneandstar at 9:57 AM on July 6, 2016 [2 favorites]