He has not confirmed a date with me, am I now free to do other things?
May 29, 2016 6:02 AM Subscribe
This guy has not confirmed the day of our date next week & now my family has asked me to have dinner with them. Do I give the free time reserved for this guy to them instead?
I feel like the advice given in this Q may help me with future dating scenarios, whether this works out or not. This guy is VERY last-minute with plans. The thing I LIKE generally about him is that he is happy to do whatever I want. I want to have dinner at X place? Great, he's on board! I want to try that new wine bar? Cool, let's go! We have a great time together in person but he can be very quiet between dates. It seems to just depend on the week...
We've been dating for a while. Last week, he said he would like to go out on a date next week. I said I'm free Monday and Wednesday evening and asked if he could let me know if either of those days suit him. That was nearly 4 days ago & he has not given me an answer. Often he waits until the evening before or the morning of, but in the interm I need to let my family know asap for a booking reservation. It's a holiday tomorrow and they have asked me to have dinner.
So: do I contact him again (dreaded double text) to let him know Monday is OUT, or just wait for him to get in contact? I don't want him to contact me in the morning saying 'So, do you want to do X?' and I say that I have no longer kept the time free. Sometimes he goes quiet like this for a few days and just when I wonder if he's doing the slow fade, he reappears! The thing is, I often feel out of control with this behaviour and I wonder if I am the culprit for over-worrying or if he should be easing my anxieties more...
I feel like the advice given in this Q may help me with future dating scenarios, whether this works out or not. This guy is VERY last-minute with plans. The thing I LIKE generally about him is that he is happy to do whatever I want. I want to have dinner at X place? Great, he's on board! I want to try that new wine bar? Cool, let's go! We have a great time together in person but he can be very quiet between dates. It seems to just depend on the week...
We've been dating for a while. Last week, he said he would like to go out on a date next week. I said I'm free Monday and Wednesday evening and asked if he could let me know if either of those days suit him. That was nearly 4 days ago & he has not given me an answer. Often he waits until the evening before or the morning of, but in the interm I need to let my family know asap for a booking reservation. It's a holiday tomorrow and they have asked me to have dinner.
So: do I contact him again (dreaded double text) to let him know Monday is OUT, or just wait for him to get in contact? I don't want him to contact me in the morning saying 'So, do you want to do X?' and I say that I have no longer kept the time free. Sometimes he goes quiet like this for a few days and just when I wonder if he's doing the slow fade, he reappears! The thing is, I often feel out of control with this behaviour and I wonder if I am the culprit for over-worrying or if he should be easing my anxieties more...
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Go to dinner with your family. If/when he texts wanting to go out on Monday, tell him "Oops! I've got dinner with my family. How about Wednesday?" It's fine for him to be last-minute about things, but you can't put everything on hold on the chance he'll get back to you the night before.
posted by zebra at 6:07 AM on May 29, 2016
posted by zebra at 6:07 AM on May 29, 2016
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