3 months of dating, should I keep seeing him?

January 1, 2016 4:11 PM

I've been dating this guy (23 yo) for about 3 months. We are both in grad school so we don't have much time. We see each other about once a week. He has told me that he is looking for a long term relationship and that he likes me. He also treats me well on dates such as always offering to pay, picking me up, etc. Although he's not much of a planner, he's always been initiating dates and agreeing to take me wherever I wanna go. He also hasn't rushed for sex yet. We have great chemistry in person. He told me he hasn't been seeing anyone else and I asked if he wanted to be exclusive and he said yes.

However, there are some signs that tell me he might not be that into me. In between our dates, he would text me every 2-3 days but never calls me. When I try to initiate calling, he doesn't seem interested in talking on the phone. I've communicated with him that I would like to hear from him more often and he said he would work on it but things haven't changed and it left me wonder if he really cares about me and thinks about me when we're not together. Also, he said he has never been in a long term relationship and in the past he never introduced any of his exes to his family or made his relationship status known on FB. He implied that I'm not an exception to this rule.

I'm on the fence if I should continue to see him as I do really like him but the lack of communication makes me feel really insecure about his feelings for me. Do you all think this all sounds normal at the 3 month mark? He has introduced me to his roommates but when we are out in public and run into his classmate, he doesn't introduce me.

posted by missybitsy to Human Relations