Should I ask this guy what he's looking for?
December 8, 2015 1:21 PM Subscribe
I know I've written about the same guy a couple of times on here. He's a grad school student that I've been seeing for the past 2 months (8 dates) and we met off of a dating app (not Tinder). So far, he only texts me to schedule dates and all of our dates have been in public. Despite my effort to initiate conversations between dates, he usually takes a while to respond or doesn't carry the convo going very far. We have a great time together and he seems to enjoy my company but hasn't initiated much physical contacts besides just casual pecks and hugs and he kissed me once in the beginning. I thought maybe he's not that into me but he keeps initiating dates and is very chivalrous (always offer to pay and pick me up, etc.). Things have been moving at a slow pace and I'm okay with that since I'm pretty inexperienced when it comes to dating.
Around the 2nd date, I asked him what he was looking for from the dating app and he said he'd like to have someone to go out and spend time with but he doesn't know if he wants a relationship. He also said his last relationship was a couple of years ago and he hasn't dated anyone else since he left his hometown to be here for grad school. I have another date scheduled with him this week and I plan on asking him the same question again to see if his intention has changed at all. I'm at the point where I'm becoming more attracted to him and can't see myself seeing him casually anymore. I'm not asking for an ultimatum; I just want to know if we're on the same page or not. At the same time, I don't know if I should broach this topic or just let things be. Any advice?
Around the 2nd date, I asked him what he was looking for from the dating app and he said he'd like to have someone to go out and spend time with but he doesn't know if he wants a relationship. He also said his last relationship was a couple of years ago and he hasn't dated anyone else since he left his hometown to be here for grad school. I have another date scheduled with him this week and I plan on asking him the same question again to see if his intention has changed at all. I'm at the point where I'm becoming more attracted to him and can't see myself seeing him casually anymore. I'm not asking for an ultimatum; I just want to know if we're on the same page or not. At the same time, I don't know if I should broach this topic or just let things be. Any advice?
This post was deleted for the following reason: Hey there, sorry, but ongoing play-by-play relationship updates aren't really what AskMe is for. You can post a version of this in your last thread about the same guy, if you want. -- LobsterMitten
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