My family forgot my birthday. Should I be mad/sad?
October 9, 2015 2:58 PM Subscribe
Should I say anything to my family?
I have been supporting my wife and two children for over twenty years. My wife has been a traditional, stay-at-home-mom ever since our son was born 16 years ago. This was her choice. I have always supported her in whatever she wanted to do, but she thought that it was important to stay in the house and be the primary care-giver while they were growing up. I supported her completely. I have always made a good living and have been able to keep our kids in private school growing up.
Unfortunately, I was laid off a couple months ago. The company was bought out. My wife, who is very talented, started working for a friend / coworker since the kids are old enough to stay in the house by themselves.
Maybe all of that is irrelevant. I guess the point is that she went off to work today. My kids went to school. I'm sitting here going through job stuff, and nobody remembered that it's my birthday. I'm really down. Maybe it was only me that tried to make a point of celebrating occasions, but no, that's not true. We always celebrated every occasion.
I said to myself I was going to be the bigger man. I didn't want to embarrass her when she suddenly realized what the day was. I called and said do you remember what today is? "Oh, yeah! I'm sorry." Getting home after a meeting I find a gift bag with a $5 dollar Starbucks gift card, a chap stick, a pack of Kleenex, and a pack of gum.
I really don't want any kind of present. Money has been tight. But this seems like an insult. I just wanted my kids and wife to tell me happy birthday.
Sorry for the rant. Just feeling down.
I have been supporting my wife and two children for over twenty years. My wife has been a traditional, stay-at-home-mom ever since our son was born 16 years ago. This was her choice. I have always supported her in whatever she wanted to do, but she thought that it was important to stay in the house and be the primary care-giver while they were growing up. I supported her completely. I have always made a good living and have been able to keep our kids in private school growing up.
Unfortunately, I was laid off a couple months ago. The company was bought out. My wife, who is very talented, started working for a friend / coworker since the kids are old enough to stay in the house by themselves.
Maybe all of that is irrelevant. I guess the point is that she went off to work today. My kids went to school. I'm sitting here going through job stuff, and nobody remembered that it's my birthday. I'm really down. Maybe it was only me that tried to make a point of celebrating occasions, but no, that's not true. We always celebrated every occasion.
I said to myself I was going to be the bigger man. I didn't want to embarrass her when she suddenly realized what the day was. I called and said do you remember what today is? "Oh, yeah! I'm sorry." Getting home after a meeting I find a gift bag with a $5 dollar Starbucks gift card, a chap stick, a pack of Kleenex, and a pack of gum.
I really don't want any kind of present. Money has been tight. But this seems like an insult. I just wanted my kids and wife to tell me happy birthday.
Sorry for the rant. Just feeling down.
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