Is this how a relationship should end?
July 13, 2015 2:45 AM Subscribe
I think we've broken up, but I've not been told. Should I end it myself or just walk away?
I’ve written about my on/off relationship with my hot and cold girlfriend before, so please feel free to read it if you haven’t already.
This will be the last time I write about it as I know how boring it must all sound.
In short, the latest instalment is that after an argument 3 weeks ago I stormed off. It wasn’t the worst argument in the world, and I did apologize for it by text followed by a phone call. Since then she’s gone cold on me. I sent her some flowers and a card for her birthday ten days ago, which she thanked me for, but I’ve not heard from her since. We’ve been together on and off for nearly 6 years , and she has ended it with me 3 times before. She usually ends up getting back in touch months later and we get back together. I do love her.
However, It’s obvious that she has either broken up with me, or is trying to punish me for the argument.
Either way is unhealthy….I know this.
My question is should I send an email to end the relationship as it still feels like I’m in a kind of limbo, or do I just leave it and walk away?
What is the more dignified approach to this? It’s taking up a lot of my head space because it doesn’t feel like it’s in my nature to just let it end in such a way. It feels like she is being cowardly by not ending it with me. Having said that, will I just be making a tit of myself by sending a message to end it ? Part of me feels like it would be kind of mellow dramatic to do this. Would it give me closure? Is it possible to even get closure in an on/off relationship?
I’m not going to reconcile with her this time and I just want to draw a line under things.
But how best to do it?
I’ve written about my on/off relationship with my hot and cold girlfriend before, so please feel free to read it if you haven’t already.
This will be the last time I write about it as I know how boring it must all sound.
In short, the latest instalment is that after an argument 3 weeks ago I stormed off. It wasn’t the worst argument in the world, and I did apologize for it by text followed by a phone call. Since then she’s gone cold on me. I sent her some flowers and a card for her birthday ten days ago, which she thanked me for, but I’ve not heard from her since. We’ve been together on and off for nearly 6 years , and she has ended it with me 3 times before. She usually ends up getting back in touch months later and we get back together. I do love her.
However, It’s obvious that she has either broken up with me, or is trying to punish me for the argument.
Either way is unhealthy….I know this.
My question is should I send an email to end the relationship as it still feels like I’m in a kind of limbo, or do I just leave it and walk away?
What is the more dignified approach to this? It’s taking up a lot of my head space because it doesn’t feel like it’s in my nature to just let it end in such a way. It feels like she is being cowardly by not ending it with me. Having said that, will I just be making a tit of myself by sending a message to end it ? Part of me feels like it would be kind of mellow dramatic to do this. Would it give me closure? Is it possible to even get closure in an on/off relationship?
I’m not going to reconcile with her this time and I just want to draw a line under things.
But how best to do it?
This post was deleted for the following reason: Sorry, but this is basically a repeat of earlier questions. -- taz
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