Happier single, vs happier with someone else.
March 11, 2015 8:59 AM Subscribe
A lot of breakup advice on here suggests "if you would be happier single/alone, end it." What about when this is more complicated?
I'm extroverted and don't have many friends. I know I wouldn't be happier single. Right now in my not-a-perfect-match (but really awesome) relationship, I have someone to be my friend and companion every day. It's great. We make plans together and help each other cook and wake up on time.
Would I rather be single? No way. However, would I rather be in a relationship with someone that doesn't clash with me on some key things?...Maybe, I have no way to be sure. Maybe the clashes make our relationship more special.
It's for these reasons I am hesitant to take any action. Thanks for your help!
I'm extroverted and don't have many friends. I know I wouldn't be happier single. Right now in my not-a-perfect-match (but really awesome) relationship, I have someone to be my friend and companion every day. It's great. We make plans together and help each other cook and wake up on time.
Would I rather be single? No way. However, would I rather be in a relationship with someone that doesn't clash with me on some key things?...Maybe, I have no way to be sure. Maybe the clashes make our relationship more special.
It's for these reasons I am hesitant to take any action. Thanks for your help!
This post was deleted for the following reason: Heya, there doesn't seem to be a really concrete question here; if this is something you're just kind of ruminating on, that's understandable but that's not really what Ask Metafilter is for. -- cortex
Your partner deserves someone who actually loves them. Right now you're just using him or her.
You've posted about a couple of pretty bad issues with your SO. For their sake, if not yours, just break up.
posted by punchtothehead at 9:05 AM on March 11, 2015 [2 favorites]
You've posted about a couple of pretty bad issues with your SO. For their sake, if not yours, just break up.
posted by punchtothehead at 9:05 AM on March 11, 2015 [2 favorites]
Have you said this exactly to your SO? Because "I'm not sure if I really like you all that much, but you'll do for now," is a relationship that I'd guess not many people want to be in.
Plenty of honest relationships will give you the companionship you want while still allowing you to find someone to date for keeps. Friends. Friends with benefits. A roommate. Casual dating partners. Etc.
Right now you're using your SO and that's pretty gross.
posted by phunniemee at 9:10 AM on March 11, 2015 [2 favorites]
Plenty of honest relationships will give you the companionship you want while still allowing you to find someone to date for keeps. Friends. Friends with benefits. A roommate. Casual dating partners. Etc.
Right now you're using your SO and that's pretty gross.
posted by phunniemee at 9:10 AM on March 11, 2015 [2 favorites]
I'm not sure what your question is. You say you're in a really awesome relationship. If that's the case, then perhaps just relax and enjoy it and don't look for problems.
posted by amro at 9:10 AM on March 11, 2015
posted by amro at 9:10 AM on March 11, 2015
What is the question?
posted by 724A at 9:11 AM on March 11, 2015 [1 favorite]
posted by 724A at 9:11 AM on March 11, 2015 [1 favorite]
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You know you don't have to assume you are going to be single indefinitely after you break up, right? Maybe you'll just have terrible luck and never meet someone again but the likelihood is you will.
posted by BibiRose at 9:02 AM on March 11, 2015 [1 favorite]