Where is so much anger coming from?
June 25, 2014 9:03 PM Subscribe
Have you been in a similar situation with respect to anger? What helped? How did you identify where the anger is coming from? Were you able to resolve it? If so, how?
posted by xm to Grab Bag (31 answers total) 13 users marked this as a favorite
The backstory- Had a bad last year or so, which continues in many ways. I am at crossroads personally and professionally. Not where I want to be, and it feels like being held hostage all the time. This situation is expected to last anywhere from 3-12 months, and after that, it will be rinse and repeat (change jobs/country, adjust to new workplace, start a social circle from scratch and the whole shebang), not to mention that some personal things wont be resolved/begin to heal till I leave present job/place.
The problem- I have been remarkably and unusually pissed since the day I arrived in the present country, most of which was normal given the circumstances. (Already sought professional help so there's that. The conclusion from that is that after a point, its just a situation/place in life I have to live through to come out the other side). The problem is that after eight months of shit, daily trivial things have begun to get to me big time instead of things settling down over time. I am extremely frustrated at my own frustration. I am frustrated at the intensity and depth of anger that I experience, which I cannot understand where its coming from. I am frustrated at not being able to stop myself from verbally lashing out or wanting to lash out at every idiot that I encounter (mostly at work, no time to build social life yet/any time soon- really. This isn't a "oh if you really want it you can make the time for it" things). I am frustrated that these very idiots are slowing my work down so the longer it takes for me to get things accomplished in this position, the longer it will take for me to get out. Above all, it's the anger and the irritability quotient- the intensity and pervasiveness- that I want to resolve to find some level of inner peace that isn't disrupted so easily by environmental/situational factors.
Your help- I am looking for anecdotes from people who have been in similar situation with respect to anger, and who have learned to overcome it. What helped? How did you identify where the anger is coming from? Were you able to resolve it? If so, how? Any professional reputation saving tips and tricks in the meantime?
Thanks in advance.