How to smile on command?
June 21, 2014 3:30 PM Subscribe
How do I make a genuine smile when I encounter people so that they know that I'm open to interactions?
posted by PlasticSupernova to Human Relations (25 answers total) 11 users marked this as a favorite
There's all kinds of advice that says that smiling is the best way to show people that you're open and friendly, most prominently from How to Win Friends and Influence People. Unfortunately, owing to my social anxiety and general fatigue, I feel like my normal expression is somewhere between ambivalent and pained. When I try to smile, either at people or in a mirror, I can tell that it looks fake, and my muscles just seem incapable of doing the necessary maneuvers to make a genuine, friendly smile on purpose. On the one hand, it seems disingenuous to force a smile, but on the other hand, in my view, I would actually be showing my genuine personality hiding behind the anxiety. I also suspect that if I start to smile more on purpose, then it'll become easier to smile without trying.