But those who never win and never quit are idiots.
March 28, 2014 12:04 PM Subscribe
Long-time listener, first-time caller. I've been in my current job just over nine months and it's been a slow-moving disaster. I've decided it's time to call it quits, my boss agrees - now how to spin this?
posted by bgal81 to Work & Money (7 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
To make a very long story short, I was unemployed four years ago when a friend offered me an interview at his very large company. It was my first "real" job at the ripe old age of 28 and, all things considered, it went as well as could be expected. It was in logistics, a rather odd little industry, that's known for being very high-stress due to tight deadlines. The first place I worked at was not unique for the industry but definitely not one of the best. There were screaming matches in the office and people quitting every other week. In one year, out of our department of 45, I saw 30 people leave. And after two years of madness, I was one of them. I gave my notice that day. I know this is generally poor form but in that industry, isn't unusual and at that workplace, was one of the duller exits.
Even though I left without another job lined up, I found one within three weeks and began it with great enthusiasm as I was certain that at a more functional workplace, all my problems would be solved.
The new place, while much better, had its own share of secret crazy with poisonous office politics and my position having had a high turnover rate as well. And even though I made it clear to my manager I was still relatively inexperienced, I think they were hoping for a much faster learning curve than I was able to provide. Then there were my own issues - some undiagnosed depression and anxiety coupled with a major sense of Impostor Syndrome led to a very uneven and "mediocre" (as my manager put it) performance. I went from being one of the best employees in my crazy first workplace to being the office screw-up at my second workplace.
After a lot of tense and sometimes angry conversations with my boss, and after realizing she was reading all my emails (which is the company's perogative but I find it odd she didn't tell me) and realizing no matter how much she talked about "fresh starts", I was always going to be The Office Fuck-Up, I told her today I was thinking it was time to wrap this up. She agreed and we will discuss this further in ten days when she returns from a business trip overseas.
So here are my questions:
- Since I will be looking at other jobs in the same industry, how do I spin this?
- What should I be on the lookout at future jobs so I don't repeat the same patterns? I know what I need to work on, I am with a therapist and on medication which has been helping but I also know there's more than that to consider. How do I go into a job - even if it's not the ideal one - with a goal of succeeding?