Help me figure out how to build an idle life.
December 8, 2013 11:34 AM Subscribe
I've recently become unemployed and am taking this opportunity to rethink my lifestyle. Help me figure out how to build an idle life.
posted by 1d2d3 to Work & Money (11 answers total) 27 users marked this as a favorite
I had been working in retail for a few years before eventually getting a promotion which brought in more money (only £20k though) but at the cost of being much, much busier (taking work home, working all hours, huge pressure, corporate environment). I tried the new job for a couple of months and then quit as I felt I was on the verge of having a meltdown, didn't really need the extra money anyway, and hated my boss and the work itself. I'm much, much happier for having left. I'm taking this gap in employment as an opportunity to re-assess and plan for the future. Having turned 30 this year I feel I've got a reasonable handle on what I want from life, what makes me happy, and what makes me miserable.
So, as I said, I'm 30 years old, I'm also male, British, single, and have no desire to ever have kids. I own my house (with an affordable mortgage) and car (paid off), and have no debt, so I'm in good shape financially. I don't have expensive taste or big dreams, and am relatively content at home with my books and computer games, and beyond a certain level I'm just not financially motivated at all. I would like to get married and settle down someday but as I said, I'm not planning on having kids.
As for work I have experience in retail, giving training, and have a couple of unrelated degrees under my belt too, so I'm fairly able academically. I absolutely want out of retail and customer service. I'm burned out and I can't stand the thought of going back to it. I'm sick and tired of the fake smiles, white lies, and emotional labour of retail, and I'm done with the financially-motivated, driven corporate environment and its lunatic work-ethic. And I'm not sure what to do next.
In an ideal world I'd like to work 30 (or less) hours per week (4 working days per week maximum) doing something not terribly demanding but somewhat fulfilling (and which doesn't require me to get my hands dirty), then go home to my lovely wife (who doesn't exist yet) and our nice house (which does) where I pursue my hobbies (currently reading novels and playing videogames but I think I need more hobbies, maybe writing one day, maybe further study) and live in modest, unambitious comfort. If I had to summarise my personality I'd perhaps say I'm an optimistic nihilist who is prone to bouts of depression (nihilistic in that I don't see very much point in anything, and optimistic in the sense that I'm quite content to fart around anyway most of the time).
I've kind of meandered away from what I originally meant to ask - which was something about building up an idle or chilled-out life, and something about what sort of job I ought to pursue next. Anyway, I hope there's enough here to constitute a 'question' and look forward to hearing your 'answers', however meandering they might also be.