I want a job/community I love - but I have trouble staying passionate.
October 17, 2013 8:22 PM Subscribe
I graduated from college a year ago without a community I was passionate about, and without many friends.
In the last year I coached a high school debate team, and I've been working as a math tutor for the current semester. Thing is, I never really enjoyed para-education, and would rather take a job in something I can make a happy, extensive career out of.
But therein lies the rub: I'm decent at a lot of different things - but I'm not excellent or all-encompassingly passionate about any of them.
posted by LSK to human relations (11 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
I've done lots of things in the last year - theater, recorded a CD, designed three board games, and programmed a web game (which is the current project, and I'm having a lot of fun doing it, but I'm not good enough at programming to get a job in it.)
I couldn't take a job in theater or music - there are people far more passionate about those fields than I am and far more skilled in them, and I certainly don't have the grit for rehearsals.
I would be absolutely surprised if I got a job designing board games - I could definitely see myself spending hours on those each day, but the reality is that there aren't all that many professional game designers.
And I'd love to take a job programming, but I'm worried I'd burn out in that and get frustrated easily - not to mention that I've spent less than two months working with the language I'm learning and couldn't find a job in the field on that level of experience.
In an absolutely related issue: I've made a few more friends since college - but not many, and I've only found them by sheer chance, at small events or social gatherings I stumbled upon. I want to find a community of people to be part of, but it's hard - I feel uncomfortable at meetups since everyone else already knows each other and a social order is already established; large performances don't work because people go in groups; and communities of people in a field don't work because I'm not fully embedded within those fields. (I met my closest friend at a Eurovision party, but that's not going to happen again for months...)
I feel like I'm having trouble finding a community because there aren't any that really closely connect to where I am in life - and that place is best described as a big question mark.
So the question: I want to find a job and a community that feel right for me given where I am in life. How do I do this?
(The more I write about this question, the more I realize this is a convoluted way of saying "I don't enjoy where I am in life, but I'm not sure how to change that." Any help in that area in general would be amazing!)