I don't want a kiss from a child who doesn't want to give it.
September 5, 2013 7:19 AM Subscribe
My 3yo niece (through my husband's side) loves me, but is always shy at first when I see her. Her parents tend to push her at me saying "Give Aunt C a kiss!". She doesn't want to. That is fine. I believe that her body is her own, no matter how young she is, and I really, really don't want her to feel forced to have physical contact with me when she clearly isn't interested. I usually say something obvious like "oh, she doesn't have to, it's fine", but her parents don't seem to hear me and still hold her there, at my head level, while niece and I look like we are being repelled like magnets from each other.
Can you help me come up with a script that will get it across that really, it's okay, with maybe a little bit about why I don't feel comfortable forcing her? I think it would be cool if they could reflect on the message they are sending her - this never happened/happens with her older brother, who is equally shy at first.
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