How to shake it off?
September 3, 2013 4:03 AM Subscribe
How do I shake off negative comments and/or opinions in my (academic) job?
posted by gadha to Human Relations (21 answers total) 10 users marked this as a favorite
So IMO us academics are a petty lot. Smart people, big egos, lot's of pride. It gets rough.
I commonly get lots of comments from people who I consider quite smart and talented (and therefore look up to) regarding my performance, approach to solving a problem or generally. Sometimes I even get these people outright blank me because they feel I'm not worth their time (like today in the canteen where a senior academic signalled by "hello" with a dismissive nonchalant stare -- or last week where I learnt there's a reading group going on in a topic in which I'm very interested but which I was not invited to because my opinion is considered pointless).
Fair enough, it's their life and it's their opinion. I know I shouldn't let it gnaw at me but it does. A lot. In other areas of my life where I receive similar negativity I'm able to easily let it wash over me because I guess I'm not so invested in those people or in those things. However, work related feedback really does drive me to despair. I know some of these things are just personality quirks but it's difficult to not let them bother you.
I know I should grow a thicker skin but I'm looking for general coping strategies to avoid feeling down for entire days when this sort of thing happens. Logically I'm able to reason it out, emotionally it's a little different.