"Dogs' lives are too short... Their only fault, really."
January 7, 2013 9:24 AM Subscribe
I love my dog. Every once in a while, I feel utterly heartbroken that I will most likely outlive him. While it doesn't happen often and it's not overwhelming, and I realize that it is perfectly natural to be sad about something like that, can you give me advice about how to turn these thoughts into something positive?
posted by halogen to pets & animals (42 answers total) 42 users marked this as a favorite
Here are some helpful details about him:
- I adopted him last spring at the age of one. He is my first dog.
- He is in great shape but as a pit bull mutt, it's unlikely that he will live much past the age of ten.
- He is the best dog in
the my world and – when he is not napping with his head in someone's lap – he is just so glad and excited to simply be a dog. Everyone who gets to spend time with him adores him.
- His life is overall terrific, and his presence brings an extra fantastic dimension to my own life. I don't obsess over his well-being as much as I did when I first got him, but he probably is the single greatest source of joy in my life after my family (which I am of course grateful for but to be candid, tand to take for granted on a day-to-day basis).
...and about me:
- I am a 28-year-old married woman, not depressed or otherwise unhappy, although occasionally I do get randomly melancholy about living so far away from most of my family and anxious about their declining health.
- I don't particularly like dogs, just mine.
- I am not an affectionate person and there are very, very few people I want to spend time with or like as much as this dog.
- I will most likely be a lifelong dog owner although it's difficult to imagine that I could genuinely adore another dog this much or find one who is just so damn perfect, flaws and all.
- I don't believe in souls or afterlife, and I'm mostly concerned about how I will handle it when he dies, and sometimes how those who may depend on me in the future – children that I don't even have yet, for god's sake! – might suffer due to that. That seems unnecessary.
Metafilter tends to be really good at this sort of thing... There is no reason for me to be grieving over something that, with a bit of luck, won't happen for a long time. I feel that it's irrational to get this upset about his eventual death when he's snoring right next to me. What can I replace these – certainly not dark or grim or angry but rather wistful – thoughts with?