November 29, 2012 3:55 PM Subscribe
My sister's boyfriend is older than our father. He is more than twice her age. It (he) makes me uncomfortable and it is driving a wedge between us. I'm not sure how to communicate my feelings about this to her or if I even should.
posted by Evstar to human relations (52 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
Very shortly after she divorced her husband of 2 years, my sister (27 yrs old) started seeing the president of the organization that employed her who happens to be more than twice her age. They have been together now for at least two years themselves. She no longer works under the man but they are living together. My family wants nothing to do with him. I am her only sibling (25 yrs old) and in the beginning I tried to be supportive of her when she faced the backlash from our parents who are very distraught over the situation. Intellectually, I want to think that age should not be a barrier in a relationship between two consenting adults. Viscerally, this man makes me very uncomfortable and I don't want to share a room with him. It doesn't help that my sister is very petite and is often confused for a teenager.
I have no reason to believe that my sister is being abused. I've had dinner with her and her boyfriend and he is a nice enough guy but I want nothing to do with him. I would like to see more of my sister and develop a better relationship between the two of us, but I feel this man is getting in the way. In a week I will be leaving the country for 4 months. My sister would like me to go over to their place for dinner and drinks tomorrow. What I want to tell her is, "Your boyfriend creeps me out and I don't want to be in the same room as him." What should I tell her really? I really want to get out of this.