How common is bullying in grad school?
November 24, 2012 1:31 PM Subscribe
How common is bullying in graduate school?
posted by kettleoffish to human relations (42 answers total) 8 users marked this as a favorite
I am asking this question because I want an honest answer. I'm curious about what the prevalence of bullying is-- I think this makes a big difference in terms of the quality of life at a place and also because a supportive environment helps with overall career trajectory.
Yes, it's important to choose your advisor--- I have a pretty good sense of people off the bat, although sometimes I'm wrong. But overall what I wonder is how common it is for graduate students to feel dismissed, demeaned, and alone to an extent that is not directly tied to mastering the subject matter.
If there is a sense that the intellectual pursuits of grad school and any thorny interpersonal interactions are tied up in each other, I would like to know that too.
My personal history toward this: nobody should be bullied, but I'm pretty sensitive in general. I am not bullied in my current line of work and am picky about associating with people who put down and demean others; I never join the crowd for this sort of thing. I also was highly, highly bullied, both physically and verbally throughout school and have seen firsthand that university professors too can target their students.
I don't see university ombudsmen as being receptive and would never get engaged in a formal grievance procedure but also want to be realistic about choosing a department and career that limits these experiences. Life is too short to be miserable.
Well, any insight would be helpful! I am ready to embark but would like to hear any caution or stories about the prevalence of this kind of thing in academia.