To shame or not to shame?
October 5, 2012 8:04 AM Subscribe
Should I dog-shame my ex-boyfriend who deceived me ?
Have you seen the hilarious dog-shaming site? http://dog-shaming.com
Would it be in poor taste to create a similar site dedicated to my brand-new ex who did horrible things? Or maybe create an ex shaming site where slighted girls and guys could submit photos?
I'm asking because I feel that keeping things quiet perpetuates the bad behavior. I'm angry and I don't want to roll over and play dead (doggie reference!). And why should the perpetrators get away with it?
I've consulted some friends about this and many of them say "You're better than that. Don't stoop to his level.", while others say "Oh hell yes!"
If anyone wants the back story (sadly, it's only part of the story), please see my previous post. The good part is that I kicked him to the curb.
Have you seen the hilarious dog-shaming site? http://dog-shaming.com
Would it be in poor taste to create a similar site dedicated to my brand-new ex who did horrible things? Or maybe create an ex shaming site where slighted girls and guys could submit photos?
I'm asking because I feel that keeping things quiet perpetuates the bad behavior. I'm angry and I don't want to roll over and play dead (doggie reference!). And why should the perpetrators get away with it?
I've consulted some friends about this and many of them say "You're better than that. Don't stoop to his level.", while others say "Oh hell yes!"
If anyone wants the back story (sadly, it's only part of the story), please see my previous post. The good part is that I kicked him to the curb.
This post was deleted for the following reason: "Hey, should I engage in a revenge scheme" is really kind of not something we even want people asking about on here. -- cortex
You're better than that. Don't stoop to his level.
posted by bensherman at 8:07 AM on October 5, 2012 [1 favorite]
posted by bensherman at 8:07 AM on October 5, 2012 [1 favorite]
No.
posted by trunk muffins at 8:07 AM on October 5, 2012
posted by trunk muffins at 8:07 AM on October 5, 2012
I can see the benefit of turning anger into humor, but good heavens, don't post anyone's actual pictures, whatever you decide.
posted by pajamazon at 8:08 AM on October 5, 2012
posted by pajamazon at 8:08 AM on October 5, 2012
You're better than that. Don't stoop to his level.
(I'd also be very careful about potential liability for defamation.)
posted by Defying Gravity at 8:08 AM on October 5, 2012
(I'd also be very careful about potential liability for defamation.)
posted by Defying Gravity at 8:08 AM on October 5, 2012
If you do this, you're still expending energy on this relationship. Leave this relationship behind.
posted by xingcat at 8:09 AM on October 5, 2012
posted by xingcat at 8:09 AM on October 5, 2012
The good part is that I kicked him to the curb.
You haven't kicked him to the curb if he's still taking up so much space in your head. Kick him to the curb for real and you will find that you have no interest in wasting any more time or energy on him.
posted by headnsouth at 8:09 AM on October 5, 2012 [3 favorites]
You haven't kicked him to the curb if he's still taking up so much space in your head. Kick him to the curb for real and you will find that you have no interest in wasting any more time or energy on him.
posted by headnsouth at 8:09 AM on October 5, 2012 [3 favorites]
Do you want to get over him, leave this relationship behind, and move on with your life? Or do you want to wallow in the muck of his bad behavior for a few more months, dwelling and dwelling on all the things he did to you and allowing him to dirty up your psychic space long after you dumped him?
posted by showbiz_liz at 8:10 AM on October 5, 2012
posted by showbiz_liz at 8:10 AM on October 5, 2012
Translation: Should I become a cyber-bully and/or create a site that encourages cyber-bullying?
Hell no.
posted by itesser at 8:10 AM on October 5, 2012 [1 favorite]
Hell no.
posted by itesser at 8:10 AM on October 5, 2012 [1 favorite]
Circulating stories about someone awful makes you awful-adjacent.
posted by mochapickle at 8:11 AM on October 5, 2012
posted by mochapickle at 8:11 AM on October 5, 2012
There is zero chance you will ever be in consideration as a potential partner for me, but if you were, the fact that you had done this--even in your wild youth--would eliminate you from the running as a potential partner for me. Which is by way of saying, you're considering doing this because of what you believe it says about your cheating ex-boyfriend. That's the wrong line of thinking. You should be considering what doing this says about you and what it says is nothing good at all.
posted by crush-onastick at 8:11 AM on October 5, 2012 [2 favorites]
posted by crush-onastick at 8:11 AM on October 5, 2012 [2 favorites]
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posted by hamandcheese at 8:07 AM on October 5, 2012