Let me put that in writing
September 7, 2012 4:20 PM Subscribe
I can't think properly when people are looking at me! Please help.
posted by btfreek to human relations (20 answers total) 24 users marked this as a favorite
I'm a fairly quiet person in general, easily intimidated by people, and I usually prefer to "blend in" and not stand out in any way. When called upon to do so I'm told I can be a good speaker and give engaging presentations, but if anyone asks me anything I'm not expecting or otherwise throws me a curveball I get derailed pretty much immediately: I either say something totally inane and then realize it and try to backtrack furiously, or I start thinking and staring off into space (or directly at the asker) for what feels like minutes at a time, and then, since I don't really "think in words", have trouble articulating exactly what I mean. I am currently in college and have been doing internships and working with professors and such, leading to embarrassing moments where I totally drop the ball in front of them, and then once they leave the room my brain starts working again and I'm furiously typing out an email detailing exactly what I should have said out loud five minutes ago.
Everyone I've talked to about this has told me that I'm still young, as I get older/more experienced it will get better, etc and I'm sure it's true, but I want it to happen faster! Does anyone have any tips or things I could do to try and help myself along?