How to wean?
July 22, 2012 8:24 AM Subscribe
When and how did you stop breastfeeding?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (46 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
Relatives are pressuring me to wean my baby (single digit month old).
They mean well: baby starts childcare soon; will eat more solids; i go back to work soon; i get more sleep.
I just do not feel ready.
I was unwell this weekend and they would not allow baby to breastfeed all weekend. They said this is a good time to wean. But I am tired, physically uncomfortable and missing my baby terribly.
They are now mad because I went back to breastfeeding on Monday. I told them I would prefer a gradual approach but they said it was better to be all or nothing.
They also insisted that I am being stubborn and stupid. They have more experience and why am I being so naive? Apparently in our culture, it is currently seen as a rarity to breastfeed as most mothers would opt not to even if they have breast milk - because most mothers like to preserve their youthful looks/ body and babies "suck the youth out of you." Breastfeeding also means no more firm breasts. So many mothers age so quickly after having a baby, they become physically unattractive (including being stretched down there) and thus it would make sense for their husbands to leave them for younger more nubile models.
I think they are full of hogwash (though they are looking out me for in their own way). But I am also unfortunately living with them and, perhaps being unwell, am starting to let it get to me as they are relentless in their constant nagging.
It would be very helpful to know of when and how others have weaned their baby(ies).
Also whether it is ok to be so incredibly sad when you do.