How can I feel more confident in situations that make me feel unsafe?
July 20, 2012 5:06 PM Subscribe
What can I do to make myself feel more capable in situations where I feel unsafe?
Note: I assume that many people will recommend talking with a therapist. Let's take it as a given that I will explore that route, and please focus on other things I can do in your answers.
In the past few months, I've been in a couple situations where I felt really unsafe, and then had that unsafe feeling compounded by the folks I went to for help. In the spring, two thieves stole my cell phone off my person in brood daylight, and then I was berated by the police for how I handled the situation when they came to my apartment to make a report. Since then, I've been very wary when I'm walking by myself, and uncomfortable when police are around.
Last night, I went to a marathon screening of the Batman movies, and was seated next to two young men who between them had consumed at least two and a half bottles of hard liquor by the end of the second movie, and were talking loudly through the showings. Before the third film, I went to a manager outside the theater, while both guys had gone to the bathroom, described them and what they were doing, and requested that they be asked to leave. I gave her directions to where they had been sitting. I expected her to take care of it herself, but she wanted me to wait with her to identify the men. This made me feel really unsafe and panicky. It ended up being resolved in a way that I didn't have to stand there with her, (in fact, I hid out in the ladies roomuntil my boyfriend told me the guys had gone), but the unsafe and panickyfeeling didn't go away for a few hours, until we were back home.
So, here's what I'm looking for: 1) ways to prepare myself now, before I'm in a situation that makes me feel unsafe, so that I feel more capable to handle myself in that kind of situation, even if I do feel unsafe, and 2) things I can do once I'm already in a situation like that and starting to feel panicky, so that I can take control of myself and extricate myself from whatever is making me feel that way. What do you think might help?