Help my 21 year-old daughter stop being 16
June 10, 2012 5:36 AM Subscribe
How do I motivate my 21 year old to look for a job (and ultimately be a fine independent young woman)? (details below)
posted by hick57 to human relations (33 answers total) 9 users marked this as a favorite
I'm the dad of a good kid who will be 21 soon. She's attended a few local community colleges, just getting by, but doesn't seem to have the drive to do well. She's bright, funny, and pretty talkative once she gets over some initial shyness.
I think it is very important for her to be working over the summer. She needs to learn all those things that we learn only on the job: how to push yourself, deal with sometimes difficult people/situations, acquire portable skills to use on other jobs.
I worry that she's getting past up by her peers who are out there working already, sorting out what they're going to be doing with their lives. I feel like she's easily distracted by too much social media, TV, and other entertainments and avoids figuring out a serious direction to take in her studies, and finding a part time job. Any part time job.
She lives with her mom across town. That means I have limited power over consequences that I can enforce. I see my daughter once or twice a week, so I've been timid about really bugging her about anything. But lately I feel that I've been shirking my responsibility as her dad to make sure that she's doing things like working and doing well in school, so that's why this is on my mind. Thanks for taking the time to read and engage on this!