How to talk to boyfriend about his smothering behavior
May 13, 2012 10:09 AM Subscribe
What do you do about a smothering boyfriend?
posted by ohtimorousme to human relations (31 answers total) 9 users marked this as a favorite
Before i go into any details allow me to explain that i'm not a fan of a lot of mushy, lovey dovey stuff. A little is fine, but i was just never the type to always want to be touching or kissing the other person. And that's fine for some people, it may work for you but it's just not for me. It may have something to do with my personality and/or how i was raised, who knows.
I'm 24, and my boyfriend is 22 we've been dating for almost 8 months now. Up until these past few weeks most things have been smooth sailing. But recently he's began to smother me, and the more he smothers the more i push away and the more i push away the more he smothers. Vicious cycle.
It's gotten to the point where he HAS to have his arm around me while we are watching tv/movie and if we're laying down he might as well just sit on me. It's as if he hasn't seen me in months everytime we hang out now. And then there are the constant "i miss you" "i like you" "i miss you already" texts. I mean it was nice to hear at first but after you say it so many times it sort of loses its meaning.
I enjoy spending time with him a lot, and really like him. But, him smothering me recently has made me get irritated and push him away.
I had to tell him once within the first few months to ease up on the mushy stuff and he was fine for awhile, but now he's doing it again. Is there a nice way i can explain all this to him without hurting his feelings?
Is it inevitable that i'll have to break up with him if this continues?
How do you deal with relationships where one person is super affectionate and the other isn't as much?