Are you a reformed malingerer? How did you quit?
April 9, 2012 5:13 PM Subscribe
I'm the boy who cried wolf! (or 'ouch'!) Help me stop, especially in light of the fact that this behavior has been positively reinforced at some points.
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I have dreams. Dreams take work to achieve.
I use relatively minor aches and pains to justify putting off the necessary effort.
Of course, there's backstory. History of depression and childhood trauma that are undoubtedly related. Those are being treated. I will be asking my therapist for advice about this also. Sorry, no throw away email.
I was the kid who never had to do any homework and always got As on exams. Real life is not a set of multiple choice bubbles, unfortunately. Also my childhood home was very invalidating, so even being gravely ill was not attended to.
It's not that I'm lazy - if I have a very defined task before me, I will happily work strenuously at it. It's nebulous tasks, long term projects, and multi-step processes (including packin for vacation!) that drive me to dive under the covers for a nap. Of course, I wake up feeling worse. Making a list often helps. I know I need to practice asking for help on tasks that are stalled by my needing information.
But what else is there?