Analytical relationship advice books without esotericism?
February 27, 2012 7:54 AM Subscribe
How to be an adult in relationships, but without fifties gender roles and esotericism?
posted by faux fabric entertainment device to human relations (11 answers total) 37 users marked this as a favorite
I've seen "How to be an adult in relationships" been recommended a few times in human relations questions. Due to these recommendations, I've bought it and started to read it, since I do want to be more mature in my relationships. However, I really couldn't read it very far. The explicit role descriptions, that a mother should be nurturing and a father shouldn't or the "thousands of boddhisatvas who will help you" appalled me. While there were some useful questions and exercises, it was very exhausting to read. I constantly had to be vigilant, which statements to accept and observe, which to question, and which to reject forcefully.
Are there any literature recommendations filling this need without these drawbacks? Precision and abstract thinking are a definite plus.
I'm an early twenties straight male nerd, my relationships so far had a pattern of failing because of me being unable to really open up. "Psychology applied to modern life" sounds right to me, but is outside my price range. (Since I didn't read it, I don't know whether it is actually good.)
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