Porn Addiction, Return to Normalcy
February 4, 2012 8:59 AM Subscribe
How long with it take to return to "normal" after years of sexual dysfunction?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (7 answers total)
I've been addicted to pornography/masturbation for years (>10). I've always been able to function normally, sexually, until about 2 years ago. Gradually, my wife and I were decreasingly having sex, and when we did I had a difficult time reaching orgasm and/or maintaining an erection. Our frequency decreased to 3-4 times over the past 2 years, none with orgasm. With solo porn/masturbation I can achieve orgasm in very little time.
In an effort to rekindle, over the past 2 weeks we've been having a lot of sex (for us) 4 times a week, tho, still I cannot maintain an erection for more than 10-15 minutes and haven't reached orgasm.
I realize that porn has desensitized me to the stimulation of a real partner. I love my wife more than anything in the world, we have an amazing marriage (this aside) and want to, once again, regain the great sex life we once enjoyed years ago. To do this, I have resolved myself to give up porn/masturbation. I have a few questions, and am hoping there are other guys (ladies?) out there that have gone through this and seen a turn around, because at this point it seems rather helpless.
Let's assume, for argument's sake, that I will be successful with a full stop of all porn/masturbation.
How long will it take, after giving up porn/masturbation, for "normal" sex to return with my wife?
What are some things I can do, in addition to quitting porn, to start to re-build that sexual intimacy back with my wife? Is there a period we should abstain from sex with each other as well? She's in the loop on this, and very supportive to resolve.
Caveat: I don't think porn is altogether bad. IMM, it can be a part of a perfectly healthy sexual identity, but in moderation. And, it's not for me.