I can't respond to your 3000 messages
September 21, 2011 9:24 PM Subscribe
TL;dr, I have a very clingy friend.
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (24 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
Skip (not his real name) and I met through a sports club a little less than a year ago. We have a bunch of mutual online friends and RL friends. I am super anti-social to begin with, but don’t mind hanging out with people at sports events and the like. Skip is a nice guy, and very popular on the online forum we both read, but I would rather have him as an acquaintance than a good friend.
A few months ago, Skip began calling/texting me ALL the time to talk about our training, and life in general. Every night, sometimes more than that. If he can’t get me on my cell, he calls the house, then texts me, then posts on Facebook. Sometimes he leaves me voicemails on my husband’s phone.
I have told him that it takes me a long time to respond sometimes, as when my husband and I get home from work, we have very limited time together before bed and we don’t normally take phone calls. Skip says he can’t see why I would have time to post a two sentence Facebook status, and not have time to talk to him for 30 minutes on the phone, or respond to his MANY text messages back and forth. If I don’t respond to a text message immediately, he doesn’t understand that my phone might not even be on.
DH thinks that I should just tell Skip not to contact me anymore. This would go VERY badly in the sports community that we are a part of. (For the record, Skip is married. Both Skip and Skip’s wife post on Facebook constantly how much they love each other, in statuses and on each other’s walls. I don’t think this is about Skip being attracted to me.)
Help. How can an anti-social girl turn down a friendship without making herself look evil?