Tell me what you wish men understood about being a woman.
March 24, 2011 5:24 PM Subscribe
I'm a guy who's interested in learning about female experiences—particularly the kind to which men might be oblivious—particularly those which will help me understand feminist ideas and perspectives. I prefer personal stories and informal musing to the dense academic stuff.
posted by ixohoxi to Human Relations (121 answers total) 151 users marked this as a favorite
Obviously, female experiences are as varied as male experiences—but I'm talking about the overall experience of being a woman in modern First World (and particularly American) culture, as it differs from the overall experience of being a man. Some examples I've seen on MeFi and elsewhere: being told to smile by strangers; a waiter handing the wine list and to the check to the man at the table (even though it was the woman who asked for them); not being taken seriously by doctors and salespeople; being heckled on the street as a daily fact of life.
Maybe this sounds like I'm saying "point me to some examples of guys being assholes to women", but that's not exactly what I mean. Examples could be positive, too: things that women are socially permitted to enjoy that men aren't; useful knowledge or abilities you were raised to have which men typically aren't.
Basically, I want to learn more about what it's like to be a woman. Yeah, it's a lot like being a man—we're all human. But there are differences, too—and they aren't always obvious from my perspective. What are those differences?
Answers could be anything: a personal anecdote from you, a favorite MeFi comment or post, a link to a blog or a specific blog post, essays, videos available online, etc. (I'll consider book recommendations, but my attention span for books has been sadly lacking lately.) Anything is fair game in terms of tone, subject, and treatment.