Making preparations for my parents' future
July 5, 2010 11:01 AM Subscribe
My parents are currently in their late 50s, and in good health. But given the many threads recently on caring for elderly and sick parents, I want to start making some plans for their future care. What sorts of things should we be talking about NOW?
posted by ladybird to Human Relations (13 answers total) 21 users marked this as a favorite
There have been a lot of threads here on AskMe and Metafilter on the topic of caring for elderly parents. Although my parents are still relatively young, and in relatively good health, this is a topic I think about all the time.
My parents live in the U.S. I live about 5000 miles away, with no plans to return to the States anytime soon. I am thinking it is not too soon to have a frank discussion with them about their plans and wishes for future care, but I'm not sure what sorts of things I should discuss with / ask them / ensure they've taken care of on the legal side.
I mean, the extent of my knowledge at this point is that I *think* they both would prefer DNR status and want to be cremated.
So again: what sorts of questions should I be asking them, what kinds of legal provisions do we need to discuss having in place, and what issues should I be considering, especially as someone living very far away from my parents?
And another, tl;dr way of looking at this question would be: if you currently are caring for ill/elderly parents, what things do you wish you had discussed in advance?