My husband thinks my depression is a choice, howdo I talk to him?
June 17, 2010 2:50 PM Subscribe
I have depression and my husband is not being supportive in the way that I would like. I have tried to communicate this to him and it is not sinking in.
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (36 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
I have been unemployed for months and I am showing all the classic signs of depression. It's easy for me to recognize because I have suffered with it off and on since I was a teenager including being hospitalized a couple of times. So i know this is not just a bad mood. I also know what I need to do like excercise and sleep well and stuff. that is not my question. The problem is that it is an incredible struggle to DO those things. Also I have not been doing the things I need to do to find a job. Most days are spent just aimlessly surfing the internet. If we got rid of the internet i would probably sleep all day. I have seen a therapist and I have an appointment with a psychiatrist next week.
My husband is a great guy 99.9% of the time and I love him very much. But he thinks that depression is a choice and that I want to be miserable, which of course makes me absolutely furious. He says I have nothing to be depressed about because we have a great house, financially stable, good marriage etc (which is true). He is supportive of me going to the psychiatrist but he doesn't think I need medication. He tells me what to do, like go for a walk and go to networking events in my field and stuff. I already know I need ot do that. I know he thinks he is trying to help but it is just making me angry and stubborn. He gets moody a lot and he would be v. upset if I ordered him to do this or do that. I told him I just needed him to be there for me but he did not let up. Before he left for work he told me what he wanted me to do today. because of the way he was acting, I don't want to do it.
So what do I say to him?