I am the one who ended our relationship, so why can't I move on?
April 18, 2010 5:26 PM Subscribe
Why am I so emotionally attached to someone that I ended a relationship with? Six months ago I broke up with my daughter's father for the third time. The first two break ups happened before my daughter was born so my feelings are not simply for the obvious reason of us sharing a child together. He is such a wonderful person; I look up to him, he is smart, caring, and we have a similiar outlook on life; morals, values. However, whenever we are together, I lose all physical attraction for him and everything he does drives me insane. He has never put an effort into our relationship. We don't share the same sense of humor and I have never felt like he was my partner in crime, something I always hoped my life partner would feel like.
posted by aprilc34 to human relations (11 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
He started dating someone shortly after we broke up, yet I can't even think about dating anyone else. I cry myself to sleep almost every night. The fact that I am having such a hard time accepting this makes me feel like maybe I made a mistake. I know, I've felt the need to end things three times, but I've also felt the need to try again twice. I've had two serious relationships prior to him, and I've been able to move on without looking back, Why can't I let go of him and what I wanted our relationship to be?