Big man scary!
March 2, 2010 9:37 AM Subscribe
My baby is terrified of her grandfather. What can we do to get her to like him a bit better?
posted by Bardolph to human relations (19 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
Over the past few months, my 10-month-old daughter has gone from perfect amiability, to suspicious, accusing stares, to full-on crying when my dad is around. Her initial misgivings were somewhat understandable: although he's a great guy and good with kids, he does have a big booming voice, tends to laugh loudly and suddenly, and until recently had a bushy Santa Claus beard. Even now that he's shaved off the beard and tries to be somewhat quieter around her, though, she's not really a fan. Grandma, other extended family and friends are fine, but she stays edgy around Grandpa.
I know some amount of stranger anxiety is normal at this age, but I'm told I carried a fixed grudge against one set of my grandparents until I was 7 (!!), and I'd really like to nip this before it gets that far. Plus, although my dad certainly understands that children can be this way, I know he's a little hurt when she constantly squirms away from him and cries to be picked up by other people.
Is there anything we can do to help them be better friends? Baby and grandpa currently see each other on a once- or twice-weekly basis, but that could be stepped up or down as necessary. Any techniques you've seen used successfully to help toddlers come to terms with scary people in their lives?