Should I tell the Other Man's Wife?
January 27, 2010 10:27 PM Subscribe
I recently discovered that my partner of 9 years has been having an emotionally and sexually intimate affair with a man for the last 2+ years. The man is married with two teenage children.
Though devastated, I'm glad I now know the truth, and I feel very betrayed by two of our close friends who knew of my partner's infidelity and didn't tell me. Given that, should I tell this guy's wife?
posted by anonymous to human relations (75 answers total) 8 users marked this as a favorite
The Golden Rule would suggest that I do.
But I don't know whether she would want to know, and I hate to think of having the power to cause such pain to another person. For myself, I know that before this happened I would've said I didn't want to know, but I now see that infidelity and deception causes a ton of damage to a relationship even before the affair is discovered.
What's the right thing to do?