Holding myself back because of body anxiety
January 8, 2010 10:47 PM Subscribe
How do I ease my anxiety over meeting a dude I'm really into? Body image issues tagging along, too.
posted by rachaelfaith to Human Relations (26 answers total) 11 users marked this as a favorite
Long story short, I met a guy online and we're terribly interested in each other. He has decided to make a journey out my way- a considerable trip by plane. I am incredibly nervous about his impending arrival, though it's a month away.
This is nothing new. Even meeting men for dates in the past has caused very high anxiety, peaking just before scheduled date time, and I've cancelled many times out of sheer panic. This mostly boils down to my lack of self esteem. I am quite critical of my body and I am convinced that upon seeing me, he'll change his mind and become less interested- he'll have made a huge decision in coming to see me and I'll let him down with my appearance.
Anxiety is not a stranger in my world, as evidenced in my past AskMe posts, but this is relatively new: 1. How do I not be on edge, constantly nervous, for a month? Ever since he booked the tickets I have been anxious. 2. How do I convince myself he won't dislike my appearance the way that I do?
I like him a great deal. I do really want to meet him and see what happens. He does enjoy my photos quite a bit, and tells me so- I just can't convince myself that I can make it to his arrival date in a super-positive state of mind.