November 18, 2009 2:57 PM Subscribe
How do you develop a sense of inherent self-worth?
posted by anonymous to human relations (25 answers total) 59 users marked this as a favorite
I understand that it's a losing proposition to base your self-worth on specific traits or abilities, and you really need to be comfortable with yourself "warts and all". I just don't know how to make that leap. I'm having a difficult time getting myself to believe at a gut level that I have worth independent of my (very imperfect) abilities and actions.
I'm also not having much luck with the old standby advice of trying to judge yourself by the less-demanding standards that you'd use for someone else. For other people as well, for better or worse, I really do seem to treat being smarter, more creative, more energetic, etc., as making someone more worthwhile.
How do you help yourself believe that you (and everyone else) has inherent worth as a person that's independent of abilities and even actions? Thanks for any advice -- this is a serious issue for me.