How to get over jealousy?
April 30, 2009 2:08 PM Subscribe
Help me tame the green eyed monster.
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (23 answers total) 22 users marked this as a favorite
So, for about 6 months, I've been in a relationship with a really caring, fun, and sweet guy. We love each other, and spend a lot, if not most, of our free time with one another. He is trustworthy, honest, and just one of the most decent people I've met.
With that in mind, why is it that I'm in constant fear of losing him, of being traded in for someone more attractive, more intelligent, more worthwhile? It seems that the longer he stays with me, the more scared I am. He has done absolutely nothing to warrant any of this. Of that, I am absolutely sure.
Because of all of this, I have become (internally), extremely needy, and struggle with jealousy. I can't bear even the thought of him talking to other women (don't worry, I've never expressed this to him), yet alone finding other women attractive (more attractive than me, at least). Even the most innocent facebook comments from other women makes me feel nauseated.
I know this is all irrational, and I would really like some advice on how to deal with this, especially from people who have experienced, and found a way to move past, these feelings. Perhaps some men could give insight into how they view women other than their girlfriends/wives? When you meet a charming, attractive, and intelligent woman, do you compare her to your SO? Do you think of jumping into bed with her?
Thank you, all.